Some Good Advice on Dealing With Heartbreak From a Comedian
Comedian Jimmy Carr is someone that I have followed on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/JimmyCarr) for some time. He is really funny and I particularly enjoy his responses to hecklers. In fact, I have watched him encourage audience members to heckle him so that he can respond humorously. I have also seen him devote a portion of his set to take all kinds of questions from the audience, some of which have included requests for advice.
A recent Facebook reel sees Mr. Carr respond to a man asking for advice on how to get over a broken heart and I was touched by his kindness. In addition, I found that his response was insightful, thoughtful , and wise. I shared it to my Facebook page and I decided that I should likewise share it on this blog.
Getting over a heartbreak takes time. You can’t really rush it, although staying busy and spending time with family and/or friends can help you to weather the pain and loneliness that can accompany a broken heart. As Mr. Carr points out, using your time to become a better person can help as well and help you to attract others to you. He points out that you need to go to and spend time in the places where the people that you find attractive frequent. And yes, as Mr. Carr also points out, the fact that it hurts merely indicates that you cared deeply for another person, which generally is a good thing. Love is a gift. I encourage you to click on the link below and watch the short video. And while Mr. Carr didn’t recommend a “rebound” relationship, such a relationship can also take your mind off of a former romantic partner and it might not be such a bad or ill-advised idea (https://www.apirateontheprairie.com/post/bearing-those-scars). It’s certainly something to consider.
Admittedly, I have considered the possibility on a couple of occasions that I likely would have been been better off having never met a couple of the women that have broken my heart. I have even considered the possibility that the good times probably didn’t outweigh the bad times and that, if given the opportunity to go back in time and “un-meet” them, I might retroactively choose to remain strangers were such historical alteration possible. I suppose that these thoughts stem from the unshakable feeling that I never really meant anything to those women. They may have liked me on some level and found me to be pleasant company and a welcome distraction. But that is about it. I expect that Mr. Carr would suggest otherwise and point to the time that I had spent with these women as proof that they indeed did care about me, even if they never really loved me. He probably would also remind me that love doesn’t always last, but that doesn’t make it any less real. Perhaps he would be correct. He probably would be. But as I said before, I can’t escape the feeling that I didn’t really mean anything to those couple of women. I certainly didn’t mean as much to them as they once meant to me. Mr. Carr would probably tell me not to overthink ancient history and not to engage in unhelpful and even destructive rumination. That’s certainly good advice.
“How do you get over heartbreak?!”
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