Today’s Random Thought (26-APR-2026)

If you’re trying to apologize or explain why you treated me badly, you can miss me with attempts to minimize your behavior by trying to highlight the fact that it took place in the past. Yes, by virtue of it having happened prior to your apology or explanation, it is in the past. But “It was in the past” is not a valid excuse or justification. When it was happening in the present, you were treating me badly with zero compassion, concern, or regard for my well-being.

You were immature back then? That’s fair. You were in a tough place back then? Fine. I hear you. You’re a different person now? That’s entirely possible, particularly given that you are now willing to have a tough conversation that you were evidently incapable of having before now. Just don’t come at me as though the fact that your mistreatment of me is a historical fact somehow excuses or justifies that poor treatment. It doesn’t.

With that being said, knowledge of the past is useful. I am responding to you in this way and I am wary of you because of what happened in our shared past. To be fair, it’s all that I have with which to judge you.